Venting Thread, or FML!

[Nightshade]

I got made redundant today....nuff said.

[Ally]

That sucks Nightshade. I'll tell you what someone told me when I had to leave my job (it was because of a medical issue, but still), but things do happen for a reason, and this just means you're destined for much greater things

[blackmageheart]

That sucks Nightshade. I'll tell you what someone told me when I had to leave my job (it was because of a medical issue, but still), but things do happen for a reason, and this just means you're destined for much greater things

Yeah, they do say that when one door closes, another door opens. Hope you're ok Nightshade

On a completely different note, it's 2:40am and I am up again because I normally wake up 2 hours after I go to bed, which I did about an hour ago. My daughter gave me the most awesome wake up present...by puking all over my bed.
So I've spent the last hour cleaning Ivy, my room and the bathroom! Fun times. XD

[Ally]

Oh dear! Has your daughter been sick or is this one of those fun one-night-only things?

[blackmageheart]

Oh dear! Has your daughter been sick or is this one of those fun one-night-only things?

Well, it was just the once, but I didn't take her to nursery this morning just in case. She's now hanging upside down on the sofa demanding that we watch blu rays and eat biscuits...so I think she may be fine! Of course, being fine means being more annoying, so I lose either way!

[Yurtle]

BMH, Yurtle, if only you lived in the US! Then you could experience our medical system, where you'll be treated the same as in the UK or Canada, but you have to pick between paying your doctor's bill or the rent. [/minirant]

Yes, I am very happy we live in Canada and have a good healthcare system. That being said, the husband recently quit his big corporate video game job to work at an indie company. Guess what this means? Much less health insurance! His prescription coverage caps at $2000. His monthly shots for arthritis cost $1700. Yep, his new plan covered all of one month! I am very lucky to be currently working in the government so I'm able to put him on my plan and we only have to pay a couple hundred a month, instead of a couple thousand but it makes me even more scared of all the provincial cuts going on in the government right now.

I hope your daughter is feeling better, BMH! Being puked on the head cannot be a good experience! And people wonder why I don't want kids...

I'm sorry to hear about your job Nightshade! I hope something comes along soon!

[m4pl3g1rl]

I know this is a venting thread but BMH I had to share a funny story about children puking. (Right . . . saying that sentence out loud sounds odd. Anyway.)

My husband and I have two kids and for some reason they have never thrown up on me. Oh around me sure, but on me, never. I once saw my nephew throw up in my brother's mouth and I've been somewhat hyper-vigilant in regards to vomit. My husband, however, is not nearly as lucky. In fact, my children seem to prefer their father when it comes time for vomit. One particular day he ended up changing 4 times! Two kids + stomach flu at the same time = vomit covered husband.

Anyway, my children seem to prefer me when it comes to recovering from emotional trauma like nightmares. But on one particular Saturday morning as my husband and I were just waking up and snuggling my son walked in and instead of coming to my side of the bed like we expected, he walked to daddy's side of the bed.

My husband rolled over and asked my son what was wrong.

In response my son leaned over and puked all over my husband. (To this day I have never figured out why he didn't go to the toilet like we have taught them to.)

At least my husband had the blanket on. ^_^

My heart goes out to all you single parents though that have to deal with these crisis' all by yourself. You have a strength I don't know if I would ever have. Power to you.

[blackmageheart]

Oh that made me laugh! Poor husband! But these are the things we must put up with as parents.

My heart goes out to all you single parents though that have to deal with these crisis' all by yourself. You have a strength I don't know if I would ever have. Power to you.

It's not easy, you sort of have to be two people and everywhere at once. Breaks are rare and time to yourself is nearly non-existent, but you carry on and do what you can. I've been a single parent from day 1 and it is sometimes very hard, but there are those times where I wouldn't change anything. Except maybe puke on 80% of my bedspace!

[katdun]

Oh, man... Kids puking stories, I have one! I bring my kids to work everyday (I work for my parents, and they love it!). We have an area in the office with toys and a DVD player set up. My 3 year old was acting goofy while watching a movie yesterday, and he decided the scene he was watching was hilarious. He was laughing and laughing and shoved his fingers into his mouth, still laughing. Then he ran to get a toy and laughed so hard around his fingers that he gagged himself and puked all over. Of course, he was running and left a nice trail behind him and all over his shirt. He then ran at the wall and collapsed in a fit of the giggles. So after I got done staring at him horrorstruck, I got to wrestle to clean him up while he giggled. At least there weren't any customers at that point... My husband and I have a deal: if I clean the puke messes, he'll clean any bloody messes because I'll faint. lol

[m4pl3g1rl]

I love children. I wish I could remember the rules of being a child. I guess I lost them when I had to learn the rules of being a grownup. Sadness.

Anyhoo - that is a heck of a story katdun. I have the opposite arrangement with my husband - he can't do blood. Although I have cleaned up a fair amount of vomit.

Parents - mostly unafraid of any bodily fluid that emerges from children. Isn't that awesome?


Edit: Nov 15

I have to post a new post but since I'm the last poster here, I'll just edit my old post so I don't double post. ^_^ (I think I just built a fence with all those posts.)

Anyway, let me just start by acknowledging that there are women out there who are childless by choice, that I support their choice, and that I would never try to change their decision regardless of why they made it. It's not my life, so I don't care.

However, I am sick and tired of reading about the 'poor woman' who 'can't have kids' because she can't give birth! I realize that there are medical horror stories, and other things that bring about an inability to give birth. And I realize that there are traumas involved that I can't even fathom because I have birthed two babies. But even these women can have children! (I do realize that it does take time to recover from traumas, and I'm in no way trying to minimize another person's pain.)

Let me tell you about the other end of my life. I am adopted. Have been since infancy, been in a loving family that I adore, and I've always known I was adopted but that I am in the family I was meant to be in. I just got there a different way.

I've even met my biological mother. She was a 19-year-old woman at the time, a student in college, and just starting out on her life. The last thing she wanted was to be pregnant. So she made the heart-rending decision to give me to a family that was a little further on in their development, financially stable, and able to care for a new life. I met her 7 years ago to tell her "Thank you for making the hardest decision you probably have ever had to make."

Do I wish I'd lived with her my whole life? No. Do I love her and honor her for her decision? Yes. I am fortunate to have had two women who loved me as an infant, loved me enough to give me away and to accept me and raise me. This gift is precious.

But not all children have had the same luck as I have. My mother-in-law is the product of a violent rape. (How much I owe that poor woman to have such a wonderful mom-in-law!) When I was delivering my son, a crack baby was born to a girl who could hardly think, let alone parent. My nurse was taking care of us both and told me about it. And there are THOUSANDS of children in the United States alone who have no parents, and live from house to house with their entire worldly possessions in a garbage bag.

I am pro adoption, obviously. I do not think all abortion is evil. Quite the opposite really. There is a need for something like this. But how many of these grieving, wonderful women out there who desperately want to be mothers, could have children if they just accepted that becoming a mother doesn't always mean birthing a baby?

Yes, the adoption service is messed up. Seriously why should we need to 'buy' our children? The fees involved make little sense. But imperfect as it is, there are children who would give anything to have parents (even a single parent family is a family), and adults who would give anything to have children.

These are real families being created by adoption, and blood doesn't matter when the bonds of love are there.

Ok I'll get off my soap box. I just read an article I shouldn't have on being childless as if it is some sort of curse. King Bumi says to open our minds to the possibilities. (Yay for Avatar: The Last Airbender.)